Is it worth it?

At the beginning of this school year, I had to move away from my school, as I was moving to a different country. I was really upset because my best friend (who is a girl) and I would be apart. A few months before I left, I started having feelings for my friend, but I never did or said anything about this to her, or to any of her friends. I think a few of my friends figured it out, but none of them actually said anything, because they knew what a tough time I was going through. Since I moved away, my best friend and I have kept in touch with each other, calling each other, sending emails, having chat messages, etc. For these coming summer holidays, I am going to spend the entire time in Michigan (where I used to live). I couldn't be happier because it means I get to meet my friend, but I still have feelings for her, and I don't know what to do about them anymore. Please help me by giving me any advice that you can! Should I tell her what I feel? Should I keep it secret? How will she react? Is it worth it if I am only going for a few months? PLEASE HELP ME!!

Sean, 15, Cambodia

Hello Sean,

Wow, it sounds like you and this girl go way back! I don't think it is worth it for you to ask her out or anything like that because you are only going to see her for a few months, and then it will become a long distance relationship, granted she says yes to you. If she doesn't say yes, then your friendship could become weird and awkward, and the little time you do have together will be spent in weird situations. If you really want it to work with her, then ask her what she thinks about a long distance relationship. If she doesn't mind it, then you can ask her, and hope that she says yes. another thing to note is whether she already likes someone, or has a boyfriend. If she does already have a boyfriend, then as her best friend, you should be happy for her, and not want to ruin her relationship with that person. Overall, I think it is best if you don't ask her out, or tell her about your feelings. Good luck in whatever decision you make.

Lots of love

Your Agony Aunt.

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Does he like me as well?

Ok. So theres this guy. I really like him and hes on the track team with me. Hes in 8th grade and im in 7th. I want to talk to him but hes always around his friends and you wouldnt just walk up to a person and be like "hi" and then run away right? Well I dont want to do that. Hes really popular and i cheer him on all the time at meets. I think i really really like him. Hes going to high school next year and i dont want to regret not saying anything to him before he leaves. Im a very outgoing person and im friendly but im too scared to do anything to make him notice me. Can you please help me?

**My friend Michelle things he likes me. He looks at me alot and it always looks like he wants to tell me something or say hey or something like that. I dont want him to find out that he likes me and ruin a friendship that we never had. Or even got the chance to have. Theres only two and a half more weeks of school and im planning to make a move. Like get his number or something. I really hope you can help me! Thanks sooo much!**

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Anonymous

Hello,

If you really like this guy, try to have a conversation with him. This is the most vital step so that you can see if you two are compatible when talking. If he has an email adress, facebook, msn chat, or even a mobile, casually drop a message either telling him he did a really good job in a run, asking him what time you are supposed to meet for your next run, or something else related to your track team. Also ask him a question like "what are you upto?" or "How you doing?". Carry on the conversation from there. If your friend Michelle is right about him liking you, then the sign of you trying to communicate him will give him a chance to come up to you, and talk to you. From what you wrote, it sounds like he is interested in you as well, he just doesn't know how to express his feelings and isn't sure if you like him back. Make the first move, communicate with him, and hopefully he will reciprocate, and respond. Good luck!


Lots of love, your Agony Aunt
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I'm worried about my friend

Hi Agony Aunt...
I have a little problem..My friend has been talking to this boy online, and they have decided to meet each other next week at a cafe. I don\'t know a lot about him, and am worried about him. He claims to be seventeen years old, and really popular in his school, or something like that, but he has never given my friend more information than that about him. I am worried about her, and don\'t think she should meet this boy. What should I do?

Cathy Street, 16, England.

Hello Cathy. I understand your dilemma, and agree with you that your friend shouldn't meet this online friend, and definitely not alone. You should find out more information about him, like what school he goes to (and then confirm that he goes to that school), as well as trying to find out some other information about him, like the type of personality he has, or the type of people he hangs out with, and how old he is. You need to voice your concerns to your friend, and if she refuses to find out anymore information, or if he refuses to tell her anything more, and your friend still wants to meet him, then you should tell your parents what's is going on, or even go straight to her parents. She may be angry at you for a while, but you could potentially be saving her life. Good luck.